I really thought I had learned a lot about dealing with people in the last couple of years.
But since I´m a dad my daughters let me know quite often this isn´t really the case.
Until now I thought that you increase your interpersonal skills as you grow older. That might be the case in many ways. Obviously not in all. Some stuff just seems to wander off again.
Let me tell you this openly:
I´ve got two role models. They´re both quite young. They both haven´t got much experience with other people. However, with some stuff they just excel.
These three behaviors in the lives of my kids I admire most:
1. They immediately build a connection
It doesn´t happen always but very often: My daughters meet total strangers and the next moment they act like they would know the person for a long time already.
It happens at playgrounds, at the gym or when we´re somewhere visiting. They just join others in the sandbox, grab other´s shovels or buckets and our oldest sometimes even starts to ask other kids questions.
I´m amazed by that. When did this lightness has left me? Of course I walk up to others from time to time, dare to start talking to them. Nevertheless, I have to overcome a certain inhibition every time.
My children don´t seem to know anything like this. - How cool is that!?
To go deeper concerning this topic you should definitely read this book.
2. They forgive and forget in no time
Crying happens almost every day. However, if in one moment they still need comfort, the next moment they leave to continue playing as nothing ever happened to them.
It absolutely doesn´t matter what happened or who was involved. They just let go and focus on the next thing to do.
That´s something from which I can a learn a thing or two. For sure!
If I get hurt on the inside, the process of forgiving and forgetting most of the time happens very slowly. Although I do know exactly what´s the right thing to do:
3. They just don´t care what others think
If they want to play, they play. If they want to sing, they sing. If they want to ask a question, they do ask a question. They just do it!
It´s important to grow up. To develop a sense of shame is normal. Sadly some adults have developed these things a little too much.
I´m one of them. - How could my life look like if I would care less about what other people think?
„Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.“ Lao Tzu
Which of these points is challenging you the most? What are you learning from your own or from other children?
Please let me know by writing a comment!
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